I can certainly relate to what you are saying. My wife (now ex-) told me after 2 years of marriage she didn't like sex and didn't want to do it any more... I took care of it myself for the next 16 years until I just couldn't deal with any more and got a divorce. My opinion ( and you realize my opinion and a $1 will get you a cheap cup of coffee somewhere) is to deal with it out of respect for your wife. I wish her a speedy recovery but things like this are not easy or fast. Good luck!