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I think a very high number of women are not into male exhibitionism. Women generally are turned on differently than men. So, the banana hammock may not be your best option at the pool or beach.
Gay men may very much appreciate a loin cloth cigarette wrapper. Just depends on what you want.
Of course there always exceptions. There will be women who enjoy a man bikini. You just have to find the right one. Your current gf may not be the one.
Gay men may very much appreciate a loin cloth cigarette wrapper. Just depends on what you want.
Of course there always exceptions. There will be women who enjoy a man bikini. You just have to find the right one. Your current gf may not be the one.
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What does she wear in those places? A loose burkini?
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How can I convince her otherwise?
I don't think you should try to "convince her" of anything. I think you should have a mature conversation with her about it.
Honestly, why is it such a big deal for you to wear a different swimsuit? Why is it important for you to feel sexy and sensual when you're at the pool or beach, especially if it's making someone you care about uncomfortable?
Not questions you need to answer to me, but probably what you should discuss with your girlfriend.
I don't think people should be dictating what their significant other does or does not wear, but this is obviously making her feel insecure or jealous or whatever and she's had the maturity to voice that. Talk to her about it and decide if making her feel that way is a reasonable trade-off for you feeling more "confident".
Advanced Wordsmith
I’m not sure if you want a female chiming in on this but being such I have no problem(s) personally with a man or men wearing skin-tight Speedo’s when at a public beach or pool if legally allowed to do so there.
I do also very much agree with clum's comment that you two need to sit down together and discuss this as two levelheaded - sensible adults and work out a solution that both can live with.
Now as for me and my husband, he often wears one as well as other types of swim trunks when required but we both do go to nude resorts and beaches where we both are completely naked and have no problem with these places.
~~Jessica~~
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I don't think you should try to "convince her" of anything. I think you should have a mature conversation with her about it.
Honestly, why is it such a big deal for you to wear a different swimsuit? Why is it important for you to feel sexy and sensual when you're at the pool or beach, especially if it's making someone you care about uncomfortable?
Not questions you need to answer to me, but probably what you should discuss with your girlfriend.
I don't think people should be dictating what their significant other does or does not wear, but this is obviously making her feel insecure or jealous or whatever and she's had the maturity to voice that. Talk to her about it and decide if making her feel that way is a reasonable trade-off for you feeling more "confident".
I do also very much agree with clum's comment that you two need to sit down together and discuss this as two levelheaded - sensible adults and work out a solution that both can live with.
Now as for me and my husband, he often wears one as well as other types of swim trunks when required but we both do go to nude resorts and beaches where we both are completely naked and have no problem with these places.
~~Jessica~~
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does said GF like when you wear those speedo's/swimwear "just for her"?
if she considers it automatically sexy/flirtatious, then the discussion is about you and her and how your relationship is projected to all the other people in the world. ask yourself is she's correct in her view that you're an exhibitionist. you wouldn't be the first, if you honestly are.
if she considers it unacceptable public attire, then the discussion is about your preferences and how much you're willing to acquiesce to her or not in that regard.
you could always move to Brasil and fit right in. all ages of brasilian men wear a "sunga," and it's just as normal to see speedo'ed men at the beach as women in brasilian bikinis.
if she considers it automatically sexy/flirtatious, then the discussion is about you and her and how your relationship is projected to all the other people in the world. ask yourself is she's correct in her view that you're an exhibitionist. you wouldn't be the first, if you honestly are.
if she considers it unacceptable public attire, then the discussion is about your preferences and how much you're willing to acquiesce to her or not in that regard.
you could always move to Brasil and fit right in. all ages of brasilian men wear a "sunga," and it's just as normal to see speedo'ed men at the beach as women in brasilian bikinis.
Active Ink Slinger
What about a compromise.
At the swimming pool, wear something that is more family friendly.
And at the beach wear your 'budgie smugglers'.
The first time I saw my bf years ago in a Speedo I was shocked. I always found them just wrong. He was from Europe. But he looked amazing in them. He truly had a long lean naturally strong body. Are they for everyone no but just like bikini’s certain bodies are sheer perfection in them. Wear what you want. It’s your body.
Rookie Scribe
There's so many possible reasons for her to think that. Including what seems appropriate, what you look like to her when you wear whatever, what style preferences she has and the list goes on. Adults can decide what they like but shouldn't be shocked if others don't find the same look appealing.
I love seeing women in thong type bottoms sometimes. But not always. Body shape, environment, age(this leans more into I don't want them to be/look too young), the fit of the suit, and the wearers comfort level all have a huge impact on whether I want to look at them.
My wife doesn't like the new trend of shorts getting shorter on men that many teens and twenties are wearing. She says it looks awkward to her because it doesn't look masculine.
Style changes and it's very wearer and viewer dependant.
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A recent snap of me on Bournemouth beach coming out of the water. I don't see that as revealing at all.
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i wear what makes me feel good. if heads turn, they turn. i’m not hiding this body. if she’s mine, i’d hope she’s proud, not insecure. but i’ll listen… maybe we find a compromise, or maybe she learns to enjoy the stares knowing i go home with her.
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A recent snap of me on Bournemouth beach coming out of the water. I don't see that as revealing at all.
Hey, it’s covering your nipples, right?
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Back when I was still pretending to be straight I used to wear the tiniest beach trunks possible, ideally string-sided with a skimpy back. My GF at the time wore a thong for sunbathing and we both enjoyed the exhibitionist aspect. It was only when I bought myself a beach thong that she started to suspect that I was flaunting my ass to other men.