Unhappy marriage question

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I arrived here just to publish my story, then I found friends and the forum!

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You don't have to be unhappy in your marriage to read and write here.

Not unhappy. Just curious. Always curious

I'm happily married and would never end it. But I also have fantasies. It doesn't mean I'm unhappy with my marriage. It just means we know ourselves as individuals and also know ourselves as a couple.

I think the one showing "Unknown User" above is my response under my previous profile and it still stands. Lush is an outlet for my desires, not necessarily about my marriage and whether it is happy.

Well, my marriage isn't happy but that's not why I'm here. Although I could use some friends with kinks like mine. I love reading erotica and will post some stories when time permits.

Unhappy? get out of it.

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Unhappy? get out of it.

This isn't always the answer. Consideration and communication as to why they are unhappy should come first, always. Relationships are about compromise and communicating, they are never black and white.

A lot of people are unhappy in a relationship because they are actually the ones too busy doing other things outside of the relationship - like working excessive overtime and hobbies.

If it is decided that nothing can be done to change the situation, then leaving should become a consideration.

Please read my profile for an answer.

I was under the illusion that my marriage can be fixed if I fix our sex life. I ended up with a good sex life (not amazing, but better than average), and a marriage that is still not working. Yes, this site gave me ideas on how to improve my sex life, but for certain it didn’t offered solution to any of my other marriage problems. I’m not here for marriage counseling. I’m here to read good erotic stories and I think I found exactly what I’m looking for.

P.S. I think Georgia is very right: most of the marriages fail because we are very selfish, we don’t pay enough attention around us, we don’t prioritize people. I’m very much guilty of all of those!

No marriage is perfect. One of the reasons that I’m here is to write erotica that people enjoy, but also because circumstances for my wife have been very difficult, so those life events have had an impact on her health and psyche. This has affected sex, but I get it. It’s been difficult.

Lush is an escape to meet people like myself. The women pay me some attention, which is very nice, a good feeling when they message me or comment on my stories.

Lush fills a gap that my marriage doesn’t provide at the moment. Maybe that will change. But for now, I’m all over Lush.

Third marriage. If it doesn't work, get out. No one dies.

Not an unhappy marriage but a sexless one. I’m horny all the time and have hooked up with guys and a few women over the years. It’s easier to get together with guys for a quick suck and go. But I’d like to find a woman who isn’t interested in a relationship, just sex

You try, everything once they say, and to save a marriage there is nothing you wont try, I`ve tried everything I can think of that doesn`t break a rule or vow or promise. I`ve offered to "do" other men for him, offered to allow him to "do" other women in front of me or not, even offered to submit and let him watch me do that, to offer him the " complete " cuckold package, Nothing, his reply was, really? seriously? and the last reply on this topic was.. " if your going to step out on me, let it be with a woman at lest then I don`t have to fight for you" so I turned to reading stories, and that path lead me here. now I`m contemplating, " A Mistress" in all the ways that entails, if it happens, who knows where it leads, but one thing I know for sure, 7 mins of "sex" once a month, isn`t working for me, or him. actually A second thought occurred typing this, I received a message telling me, in clear terms, " you dress like that, you kneel like that, you need a real man but your too old, too saggy, and not the best looking woman, maybe try an auction?" so maybe i just need to stick to stories.

It’s hard reading that, honestly. it sounds like you’ve tried to meet him more than halfway in every possible direction, even at the cost of your own emotional needs. that kind of rejection—especially when it’s laced with insults or sarcasm—can leave deep bruises. you don’t deserve to be shamed for still wanting connection, for still desiring more than a monthly 7-minute obligation.

turning to stories? it’s a form of survival. a quiet way to reclaim the parts of yourself that still ache to be seen, touched, cherished. and if the idea of a Mistress calls to you, maybe it’s less about rebellion and more about being chosen—fully, willingly, and with purpose.

you’re not too old. you’re not too anything. don’t let someone else’s emotional absence convince you that your desires are invalid.

keep reading. keep imagining. and if the right door opens, walk through it without shame.

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keep reading. keep imagining. and if the right door opens, walk through it without shame.

That's how I've dealt with a lack of real affection and sex for many years.

Holy shit Jessica some guy said that to you! That’s mean and well crazy. I think you have aged amazingly well and are very beautiful and that guy was not only mean spirited but blind! I would definitely ask you for your number lol.

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" if your going to step out on me, let it be with a woman at lest then I don`t have to fight for you"

I received a message telling me, in clear terms, " you dress like that, you kneel like that, you need a real man but your too old, too saggy, and not the best looking woman, maybe try an auction?" so maybe i just need to stick to stories.

That first quote is kinda sad, some kind of misplaced masculine honor.

The second is just cruel. Don’t let the haters drag you down. There are others who will find you to be the hottest thing ever. You are NOT too old or too saggy or whatever to have a fulfilling sex life. It just won’t be with that guy.

I’m not as quick to get on the DTMFA train. “Just get out” is simplistic and ignores your life situation. You might still be raising kids together, and the way (or whether) you split can cause or spare them lasting harm. You might also, like a lot of people these days, already be struggling to make ends meet and challenged to afford the cost of separate housing.

But it does sound like your marriage stopped working for you a long time ago. I hope leaning on the support of the Lush community or simply reading stories helps you get through, regardless of what you decide to do, so you feel less alone.